Am I Talking It Too Personally..all Answers?
well ne ways my bf and i go to the same school.upcoming tests and quizzes:that is me:keep us up until the wee hours and we talk on the phone less and less as finals approach.he is stressed out with one of his computer class:has a compuer science and digital forensics major-and is acting so distant more and more and more.i know it is nerve wrecking with finals and deadlines coming up but at the same time i am stressed out but not as much as he is.besides that today i said bye to him with a kiss and he gave me this hug which put me in a sort of angry mood.he has this class which i swear that it takes a lot of his time and these 5 or 6 computer programs that he has to write and to make them work properly:it is an all or nothing thing.neways i went and got breakfast since he said that he will think about breakfast but he never called:we get out from our class at the same time today:and i call him and he tells me that from now on until the end of this semester he doesnt need ne distractions
I wouldn’t take it too personally. Finals is tough for everyone. He has a lot of pressure on him right now, and writing computer programs can be torture sometimes. I am a computer tech student, and sometimes its awesome, and other days I want to scream. It’s a lot to learn and not enough time to learn it all. I would be patient with him, see what happens after finals. I really hope I helped you.
it sounds like you are both stressed. If he doesn’t want anything to do with you till the end of the semester tho he sounds like hes blowing you off. Talk to him about it. It is possible things will get better at the end of the semester. But if he’s treating you like this when he gets stressed will he treat you like this when hes stressed at work??
u have to respect his decision.he is probably too stressed out and he cant keep up with his classes and with a girlfriend. Give him time and space. When he’s ready he will tell you and if you take him back… good but if you dont then too bad for him, but let him know that you support him 100%.
maybe he just ment he caint hang out or talk to you as much anymore, but i dont think he dosnet like you anymore!! hope its true!
Honey it sounds like he is swamped. And if you want to loss this guy you can continue being needy in an already stressful time. And he is programming?? Dear Lord the man is doing the most tedious work known to man under a deadline. He does need his space and soon it will be over. For now you focus on YOU. Your grades, Your Friends, Your hobbies.
I wouldn’t say that you are taking it too personally. I think that every woman deserves a man who doesn’t think of her as a distraction, but thinks of everything else as a distraction. That being said, finals are a rough time for everyone. He just needs to find a better way of expressing things to you. Instead of saying “Until the end of the semester, I don’t need anymore distraction.” he should try something like “I am sorry life is crazy right now. After the semester is over, I will make up for the time I neglected you. I love you and I don’t want this to hurt our relationship. I am trying to make myself better for the woman that loves me. I hope you understand.” If he can’t muster the common courtesy to say things in a positive way to make you feel secure, than why waste anymore time? If you do love him, step back and don’t call him, let him call you. If he loves you he will miss you and call….finals be damned.
He seems to be under alot of stress and he doesn’t seem to be able to communicate with you to tell you that. So it’s easier for him to just distance himself from you. Try to understand how he must feel with having to make time for you without it interfering with school. Give him some time and space so that he doesn’t feel so overwhelmed. talk to him and just let him know, ” I understand that you are under alot of stress with school. I don’t want to add on to the stress and just want you to know that if you need me I’m here for you.”
hope this helps and hope all turns out well