Comments on: Do You Think My Punishments Are Too Harsh?

By: jennifer c

jennifer c — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 18:29:59 +0000

It sounds like your dad really loves you and wants you to do what is right and make it in this world one day. My parents were the same way. I didn’t understand it then…it made me angry, and it never seemed fair…but now that I have a child of my own, I see it. Just hang in there. High school doesn’t last forever. You will see….someone told me that when I was in 8th grade…and now I am 27…and I don’t know where the time went.

By: Rizzel

Rizzel — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 12:50:43 +0000

Some of this sounds over the top… but i’ll work with it anyway. First of all failing two classes does deserve some punishment but it seems like you understand that. I would not agree with all of your punishments such as the whole reading thing. Let your dad know that joy reading will increase your mental abilities and make you a better student, it is always important to read.
I hope you are able to bring up your grades.

By: me. Yeah. =]

me. Yeah. =] — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 11:51:09 +0000

i think he is being just slightly too harsh…but look at the bright side! my parents do that to me if i get a B on my report card! (im also in 8th grade) yep, that’s right, i MUST have straight A’s, otherwise i get to live in hell.

By: geek_gir

geek_gir — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 06:14:05 +0000

I agree with your dad that you need some pretty serious punishment to learn from your mistakes. . . but I think you should try talking with him about what’s good for you and what’s just straight punishment if you think you’re both calmed down enough to have a serious discussion. Just make sure you’re being rational about it and not more like the “you’re being so mean. . . I hate you” attitude. I think your dad was probably just really upset with both you and himself when he decided to suck all of the fun out of your life, but maybe he might pull back on it now that he’s had some time to cool off.
What I mean is that I think educational activities are still a good thing to be involved with and would probably be helpful in encouraging you to maybe find more fun with learning (and thus likely do better in school in the future). People who like what they do almost always do a better job of it. If you can’t go out with friends or even really talk to them outside of school, watch whatever TV you want, etc., that doesn’t mean you can’t have ANY fun. . . it just makes you find other things that can be fun. Like studying? (Maybe your classwork just isn’t the part of the topic you like.) I’d totally think this forensics club sounds fun, and I’m sure there’s some educational aspects to it as well as maybe some potential school-motivated friends who might help encourage you to do better yourself in school.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 03:14:08 +0000

Well, there is the question of why you lapsed in your school work and how long is this draconian punishment ot last? There should be some reward as well and punishment if you get the grades up. Personally I would encourage reading if your homework is done. I would encourage you to join a club like forensics because that is science. I also encourage some sports, in fact lots of sports. Success drives success.
Here it is straight from a dad. Tell him you love him and vow to work hard to get the grades up, then do it. Ask him to lighten up a little bit. If he loves you half as much as I love my son he will be willing to compromise.
Try writng poetry, songs, short stories. It can be like reading only you make it up.

By: ☺Blurry Angel☺

☺Blurry Angel☺ — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 02:12:51 +0000

Not really.
Two F’s, especially in 8th grade, are terrible.

By: Lisa - Mommy of 4 & loving it!

Lisa - Mommy of 4 & loving it! — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 21:09:22 +0000

I say do the extra credit.
Best of Luck!
-Lisa

By: yessika(

yessika( — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 16:39:29 +0000

the book thing yes
averything else its his way of making sure youre on task

By: Rosie_08

Rosie_08 — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 13:45:23 +0000

Yes, that is a bit over the top. You should be allowed to read. I expect the only way to get him to lighten up is proof of work well done. If you are doing well enough, ask your teachers to write a note or call your dad. If you’re not doing well enough, ask what you have to do before they will call your dad!

By: Jack Bauer my Hero

Jack Bauer my Hero — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 11:57:18 +0000

Not really, two F’s is really pathetic…